Once you sign your divorce papers and the judge closes your case in Nebraska, you may think that is the end. However, if you share children with your ex-spouse, then you still have many years of interacting. You cannot push your ex-spouse completely out of your life because you have to work together to raise your children. In addition, you will have to have financial discussions because your children are likely to need things in the future that your child support arrangements do not account for.
The Huffington Post explains that as your children get older, they will start needing money things, such as a car, car insurance, college and travel expenses. Child support is for the general care of your children and does not include extras. The extra expenses are something you and your ex-spouse must work out payment for. This requires having a plan on how to discuss money with your ex.
When approaching your ex about money, always do it yourself. Do not involve the children. Keep talks between you and your ex. However, focus on the children and their needs. Make it clear where the money will go. Be ready to compromise and sometimes pay for something yourself if your ex does not feel an expense is necessary but you do.
Money is always a point of contention in a divorce, but you need to be able to discuss expenses with your ex in a civil manner. Ideally, you would plan ahead and include in your divorce agreement a set up for extra expenses for your children, but if you did not do that, then you will need to find a way to approach your ex about money. You may be able to modify your divorce agreement to accommodate extra expenses. This is especially helpful if you and your ex do not get along very well. This information is for education and is not legal advice.
