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Creating the future: life after divorce

On Behalf of | Nov 25, 2020 | Divorce |

In the throes of divorce, many people see their future crumbling and replaced with a bleak picture. Their desire to achieve their goals may seem permanently disrupted by the unanticipated events and emotions of their ending relationship.

Fortunately, people can rebuild their future. Implementing strategic planning at the onset of divorce and maintaining a realistic perspective can provide instrumental comfort and motivation for people seeking to move past their failed marriage.

The power of abstract thinking

Divorcees who effectively remove themselves from the intense emotional whirlwind of their divorce and turn their attention to the future may find it easier to move ahead and thrive. According to Psychology Today, while a common reaction during divorce is for people to dwell on everything wrong their partner did, a paradigm shift to looking ahead to the future brings many benefits.

People who maintain a realistic perspective and focus on what they can control may experience less hopelessness and bitterness. Reducing these negative emotions can open a whole world of possibilities for the future and prevent divorce from hindering personal growth.

The value of self-care

Self-care is a crucial part of any healing process. It can look different for everyone. Divorcees would benefit from establishing a consistent routine and developing healthy habits. This may include getting enough rest, eating a balanced diet, incorporating physical activity and spending time doing things that bring enjoyment. Self-care can strengthen mental tenacity and provide motivation and satisfaction.

Other ways that people can cope with divorce, according to Everyday Health, include making new friends and journaling personal experiences. People should also allow themselves time to grieve and process their situation. Strategic and conservative financial decisions can also improve post-divorce stress.