A divorce with a narcissist is messier than typical divorces. When you have children with the other person, it is worse.
How can you share custody with a narcissist? Even if you know what he or she is, it does not mean that the courts will restrict custody. Instead, you have to learn how to parent safely with your ex.
The Huffington Post provides advice on how to handle a narcissistic parent of your children.
Be wary of your spouse weaponizing your children
Sometimes, narcissists will weaponize children against the other parent. Your spouse might try to create a smear campaign against you or attempt to get your children to look up to him or her more. If your children begin to behave differently towards you or you worry that he or she wants to hurt you through your children, you need to keep track of these instances.
Try parallel parenting if possible
You should not try to coparent with a narcissist. Narcissists have a difficult time with teamwork. Parallel parenting, on the other hand, allows you to limit contact with your ex-spouse while ensuring that you meet all your child’s needs.
In parallel parenting, the two of you have to keep to one schedule and should have boundaries that neither should cross. If your spouse becomes antagonistic, ignore it. You do not have to hide your feelings from your kids, but you need to stay age-appropriate about how you feel and your thoughts on the situation.
You should never criticize your kids, especially not your spouse. You have to be careful not to give him or her anything to use against you.
